I have been in a cocoon for the past 10 years.  A cocoon of sickness, loss and recovery. Recovery is necessary for sure but living again is also an important step.

I had lost my freedom, a loved one and my verve for life.  When this happened, depression set in and the question ‘why me’ inevitably comes up. Then guilt, why not me. 

I needed to realize no matter the state of the world’s woes, I still deserve to live my best life.

When your life takes an abrupt change whether through divorce, illness, job loss, death of a loved one or even a move, you can be shaken to the depths of your soul. There are usually two ways to go, 

  1. Retreat, or 
  2. Change direction. 

The longer you are in retreat mode the harder it is to break free. It’s easier to keep the status quo no matter how miserable you are than to change.

But the good news is our spirit is malleable.  It can be readily influenced given the proper inspiration. It’s not easy but can be done. I have known such amazing people. When the time is right the universe or the powers to be will show you a way out of the shadows to a life that will flow effortlessly. I know this! You will hit bumpy patches but keep focused on your reward – a life filled with a passion to live.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”

– Socrates.

I experienced this first hand. I was spending so much energy thinking about bad medical care, inappropriate bosses, and the ‘what if’ scenario all the time.  I needed to focus on the future not the past. I could not see new opportunities if I was blinded by my long-gone past life.

The good thing about change is you’re starting with a blank slate. Take the opportunity to think back to when you were a kid. What did you want to be when you grew up?  What were your dreams and your aspirations? Then think about what got in the way of those dreams.

This is the time to take stock: 

  1. What are your talents and abilities?
  2. Who are the people you admire?
  3. What talent would you like to have?
  4. Picture your perfect life

After you have formulated an idea of changes you want to make, you need to make them real.  An idea is not real until you can see it.

Vision boards are a trendy idea over the past decade and they work.  What your subconscious can see over and over again is like a magnet pulling you in that direction.  

I personally have a collage of my goals over my bed. A constant reminder of a better life waiting for me. It could even be journaling but I recommend you do this daily.

Take the time to journal.  It’s an important step in helping you to ‘see’ and create your best life.

Goals that are not written down are just wishes.

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