“Sometimes there’s just something where the stupid is so bad that it hurts: not just the inability to see the forest for the trees but a concentration upon the twig at the expense of the branch.”

– Adam Smith Institute.

Is it my fault?

Why do we have the inability to see things as they really are? Or, do we only see what we want to see?

Maybe it’s something called PERSPECTIVE.

What is the perspective of a person?

Perspective is the way individuals see the world. It comes from their personal point of view and is shaped by life experiences, values, their current state of mind, the assumptions they bring into a situation, and a whole lot of other things.

Food For Thought?

So, with all these variables out there of what the world looks like how do humans manage to work together at all?

Throughout history stupid mistakes have been made.

The Trojans accepted the Greek’s symbol of friendship of a huge wooden horse, which turned out to be hollow and filled with Greek soldiers. Naively Stupid.

The Leaning Tower of Pisa started to lean even before construction was finished. Someone didn’t plan appropriately. Even recognizing there was a mistake they kept on building. Neglectfully Stupid.

NASA erased the original recordings of the moon landing. Regrettably Stupid.

We can make stupid mistakes where we hurt ourselves or epic blunders that involve others.

What Do Stupid Mistakes Look Like?

  • Invest in get-rich-quick schemes
  • Drive too fast.
  • Social media comments that we regret later.
  • Peer pressure decisions.
  • Desperation to get what we want.

Stupid Does Hurt

I remember a time we lived in the big city and a very good job opportunity came up for my husband in a small community.

Our family packed up and settled in nicely for a few years.

Our older son was having adjustment problems, as a new teenager, that was of great concern to us.

Our perception was this isn’t a good environment; his future is at stake. Our worry for his success drove our decision.

Even though my gut feeling was nervous as we were leaving security and stability to the unknown. We went back to the big city.

We could not see the forest for the trees. In this case we sacrificed the branch for a twig.

In the end, it was a stupid decision in an unstable job market.

Kids are resilient, our son would have survived and been given an opportunity to grow and overcome his challenges.

The other 6 family members had to adapt to hard changes for years to come.

If I had spent more time listening to my promptings, I would have weighed out the decision better.

There is always that one stupid mistake that changes everything.

But what, exactly, drives our perception of these actions as stupid mistakes.

  • Bad luck?
  • Mindlessness?
  • Limited consequences?
  • Other people’s fault?

Let’s look deeper.

What is the ‘why’ of stupid mistakes:

  • Confidence vs Ability
  • Emotional Decisions
  • Lack of Attention
  • Human Error

“Those that can’t admit making stupid mistakes are destined to repeat them over and over.”

– Bill Purdin

I came up with the thought ‘Who is the bigger fool, the fool or the person that follows the fool’.

When you see the mistakes of others and follow behind doing the same thing, you’re really perpetuating the stupid behaviour.

Blinded by your behaviour, making excuses for the outcome will never be a winning combination.

“People just make stupid mistakes. And they keep making them, and making them, and suddenly they can’t dig themselves out.”

– Karin Slaughter

The Folly of Human Stupidity

We are all prone to overestimating our abilities, to making impulsive decisions, and to having lapses of attention.

This realization makes stupid mistakes seem a little less stupid — and a little more human.

A few tips to help avoid making stupid mistakes:

  1. Stop trying to multitask.
  2. Eliminate distractions.
  3. Use checklists.
  4. Always clarify and ask questions.
  5. Carefully review your work.
  6. Get a second set of eyes.

A Bit of Good News

All of the stupid mistakes you have made in the past have led you to be the person you are today. Never regret them. Never look back.

I have found the lesson is …

  • Be present in your life.
  • Be aware.
  • Don’t be fooled with the self talk in your head – your ego.
  • After careful discernment follow your spirt.  That still small voice, impression or gut feeling.

Many times, the world which we live in, the volume on that communication with our inner voice is drowned out with too many opinions and suggestions.

So stupid stuff happens

That’s where prayer and meditation are powerful.

It’s ok to ask opinions of experts but weigh it out in your mind if it’s the right decision for you.

Everyone makes mistakes in life but it doesn’t mean they have to pay for them for the rest of their life. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they are bad. It means they are human.

Important to Remember

Don’t do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset.

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