Have you ever just randomly started crying because you’ve been holding in all of these emotions and pretending to be happy for way too long?

Sometimes life can feel like a cold toilet seat in the middle of the night. Something you have to deal with but makes the job unpleasant.

Life’s journey is filled with ups and downs. Good days, bad days, blah days. What makes it such a roller coaster ride?

Why can it not be good all the time?

“The only difference between good and bad days is your ATTITUDE. The choice is always yours.”

– Dennis Brown


What if your day is filled with one after the other problems and annoyances?

What about life events that put a strain on you physically and emotionally?

Does bad health constitute a bad day?

They actually established that the average person has 60 bad days a year. Seems low, but maybe that’s me.

What If You Are Constipated?

It’s definitely an uncomfortable feeling. It causes physical discomfort that is hard to ignore.

People often feel constipated during times of stress. That’s likely because of the link between the bowels and emotions.

What about being emotionally constipated?

What Is Emotional Constipation?

“It’s the inability or unwillingness to express one’s emotions that creates the impression of a cold or unfeeling person.”

I assumed being detached from your emotions would be a good thing. Stress can have a negative impact on a person’s immune system and physical health.

But is the stress really gone when you are detached, or is it buried deep below hiding in your bowels?

Maybe then you are emotionally constipated?

Are You Emotionally Constipated?

“I think I’m emotionally constipated because I don’t give a crap.”

So emotional constipation is defined as the bottling up of emotions due to an unwillingness or inability to process, express and release what one is feeling or experiencing.

Causes of emotional constipation

  • traumatic experience,
  • stressful situation,
  • chronic conditions,
  • antidepressants,
  • schizophrenia,
  • anxiety,
  • shyness,
  • introversion.

What about being a mom?

Sometimes we end up in situations that divide us from being who we are and who we want to be.

My story…

Emotional constipation mid life led me to a chronic inflammation disease.

I was a young mom in my 20’s to 5 children. Not much room for ‘me’ keeping up with the demands.

Why are women so willing to lose themselves for a higher cause?

Each night I was exhausted from all the have to’s of the day. The sad thing is that’s all I knew.

(Crying silently at night does not constitute therapy.)

I didn’t resent or expect anything different.

I didn’t expect anything better.

Expressing Your Needs & Desires

Expressing your needs and desires is essential for living a balanced and fulfilled life. It’s important to take time to check in with yourself regularly. If you feel stressed or out of balance, chances are there is a need not being met that wants to be honoured.

Unless you block out an allotted time for yourself everyday it won’t happen.

I don’t care if at first you just sit there. Sooner or later, you will start to fill in that space like a dam opening up the flood gates. Inspired activities will manifest that rejuvenate you …

  • To feel alive.
  • To look forward.
  • To find YOU.

You can have it all, you can do it all.

“Always make time for things that make you feel happy and alive.”

Back To The Lavatory…

Emotional constipation is the brain’s built-in coping strategy.

Its’ a response to a traumatic event or a fear of getting hurt. A person may unconsciously detach from people, places, and/or objects that provoke fear or memories of trauma.

Emotional constipation isn’t an official condition like bipolar disorder or depression but it does exist.

We are faced with difficult situations every day. We often look for a coping strategy short of addictions.


Laxatives can make our bowel constipation move again. So, can talk therapy open up and release your emotions?

It definitely can…

  • Identify the reason.
  • Release your emotions.
  • Help you not to react, but to respond.

Start small. Keep a journal. Meditate.

Be patient with yourself. Look forward.

How does constipation affect your health?

Beyond functional and chronic disease, constipation can also cause structural problems.

“Constipation is a sure sign your guts are giving you the silent treatment.”

How Does Emotional Constipation Affect Your Health?

“Your gut and your emotions are a two-way street they both impact each other.”

Just like constipation in your body emotional constipation can lead to physical ailments such as headaches, chronic cough and digestive issues. Digestive issues like acid reflux, indigestion and IBS.

Emotional Constipation can make you a walking time bomb. What goes in must come out, sometimes in an explosion.

“It is my rule to never loose my temper till it would be detrimental to keep it.”

Sean O’Casey

Conclusion: detaching from problems is not a recipe for better health.

Problems never leave, they fester and grow into a huge pile of stinkin’ thinkin’ waiting till you deal with them.

Dealing With Issues In Your Life

  • Dissolve in a peaceable manner,
  • Managing conflict effectively,
  • No violence or aggression,
  • Use empathy,
  • Explore problem-solving skills,
  • Understand other points of view,
  • Make things right in a fair way.

The closer you are to the problem the harder it is to see the big picture. A little time lapse is good to clear the cob webs, but don’t wait so long that mold moves in.

Just deal with your problems before they deal with your happiness.

“Most of our problems in LIFE is due to our inability to express right things at right times, with right people. We all have different scales of emotional constipation.”

– Raghuram Shastry

“This too l shall pass.”

2 Corinthians 4: 17-18

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