To grow into an adult butterfly, they go through 4 stages: egg, larva (caterpillar), pupa and adult. Each stage has a different goal – for instance, caterpillars need to eat a lot, and adults need to reproduce. Depending on the type of butterfly, the life cycle of a butterfly may take anywhere from one month to a whole year.

One day, the caterpillar stops eating, hangs upside down from a twig or leaf and spins itself a silky cocoon. Within its protective casing, the caterpillar radically transforms its body, eventually emerging as a butterfly.

As humans we can align with similar stages in our life:

Parents bring forth a child into the world similar to how two butterflies lay eggs on plants to continue their posterity.

During the human caterpillar stage, we attentively observe what is around us.  Until age 6 or 7 our subconscious absorbs our environment like a hungry caterpillar. We learn how to cope with life in general that carries us through our life.

Bruce H. Lipton Ph.D.

The most influential perceptual programming of the subconscious mind occurs from birth through age six. During that time, the child’s brain is recording all sensory experiences as well as learning complex motor programs for speech, crawling, standing, and advanced activities like running and jumping. Simultaneously, the child’s sensory systems are fully engaged, downloading massive amounts of information about the world and how it works.

Once programmed, that information would inevitably influence 95 percent of that individual’s behavior for the rest of his or her life.”


Thank you, Bruce Lipton.  Scary huh? Who we are today depends on human parents without a manual on ‘How to Raise a Human’. 

As children we have role models. Who were yours? 

It’s interesting to watch children develop preferences early in life. The problem is parents and teachers get in the way and start channeling them in what they think they should participate in.

When my children were young, I had pictured another Osmond Family. I had them in piano, dance and opened opportunities for singing, acting and speech festivals. The boys were not open to tap class though. (possibly influenced by their Dad). I had crying children going to piano lessons. The stress alone of practicing daily piano with unwilling participants was too much. My dreams were dashed! Then entered activities they wanted, hockey, soccer, baseball, equestrian and art class. All was well now that they chose what they wanted to participate in not what I wanted them to aspire to. 

If you do have young children or grandchildren, what would it look like to let them lead you to who they want to be? How can you open up opportunities that align with their interests? It will be best for the child’s development and less stress as a parent.

Genetics or Environment?

As we go through life absorbing all we can how is it that some humans are ready to fly when their time as a caterpillar is up and others build a protective cocoon around themselves and quite possibly stay in that stage for the rest of their life.

The cocoon of life is mostly addiction topped off with low self esteem, anxiety. Oh yeah, how could I forget health, bitterness and defeat.

Each of us has our own story and the time we spend in our cocoon, no matter how long, isn’t a bad thing.  The longer you were in your cocoon the greater your flight will be.

What’s important is that you do break free to fulfill your inherited purpose for a happy life.

Rock bottom has built more champions than privilege ever did.

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