In the beginning….

It was a dark and stormy time, as a child I did not know it, but looking back it was.

I feel I was encased in a bubble that helped me rise above the dysfunctional environment I was raised in.  Divorce, alcohol, emotional abuse could have led me on a different path in life.  I’m not ignoring the fact that deep down there was an impact but it didn’t take me down.


So many people blame their sorrowful existence on their parents. That can be a very debilitating situation.  We as humans have our own spirits, strength and talents that possibly our parents didn’t have.  Deep inside there is the power to overcome and be who we were meant to be.  So, I have no patience to listen to the’ woe be gone’ stories of cowards not taking responsibility for their own actions. Sorry, I know coward is a tough label but sometimes a slap in the face knocks us out of that mindset.  I’m aware bad things happen; horrible despicable things happen to people when they are at the most vulnerable stage of life.  Wearing that cloak of pity and anger can keep you from recognizing the amazing talents you have and opportunities that are waiting for you.  Take that cloak off and let your wings out!

“As with the butterfly, adversity is necessary to build character in people.” – Joseph B. Wirthlin

There are so many stories out there of people rising through adversity – be it bad childhoods, ill health, and great traumas – who have excelled beyond their own belief.  What do they all have in common?  Tenacity, determination, and a vision of who they want to be.  Who they were meant to be.

“Always seek out the seed of triumph in every adversity.” – Og Mandino

Some people that have triumphed over adversity:

Rhonda Byrne: Divorced in her 60’s, homeless, father died, suffered depression and then catapulted herself to be the creator of ‘The Secret’ movement. She dug herself out of a deep hole to become very successful in her endeavors. 

Steve Jobs: Autistic, adopted, college dropout, didn’t fit in the box society wanted him in.  He followed his passion and vision to become a business magnate, industrial designer, among other things. He followed his dream against all odds.

Other People with Autism: Dan Aykroyd, Albert Einstein, Mozart, Sir Isaac Newton, Bill Gates, Jerry Seinfeld, Nicola Tesla and Elon Musk. 

This list is amazing. They didn’t have an even playing field to accomplish what they did.

“Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged” – J.K Rowling

Everyone has seeds of greatness planted in them. We have come to this earth (I believe) to fulfill a purpose and a need. That purpose is not easy to recognize sometimes as we make wrong turns and ‘the have to do’s’ in our life distracts us from our intended path.  Believe me there will be a time to get back on track, just keep fanning that inner spark by journaling, meditating and keeping the faith.  In those quiet moments you find direction and inspiration through a still small voice. 

I have had brief messages pop in my head while folding laundry. That seems to be the time my mind is most quiet, I guess.

When your inner self speaks, listen.

Follow your gut instincts. Recognize when something or someone catches your attention. That is for a reason. Your spirit’s energy is always aligned with like energy. I have had that happen to me many times.  In a crowd or private moment someone will cross my path and I am drawn to them. Sure enough they became a piece to the puzzle of my life.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

So looking back, where did I get that courage to accomplish what I have in my life? I followed my instincts and didn’t listen to any self-talk of failing. I have had the inner conviction that I could accomplish anything I set my mind to. It was always a ‘Can Do’ attitude. I was not reckless moving ahead with projects. I sourced out a path to success then went for it. I did the work and success came.

So, the sad beginning to my life could have made me absorb the dysfunction but instead I was blessed to recognize the God given gift that was bursting to get out. I just had to let it loose.

“You were never created to live depressed, defeated, guilty, condemned, ashamed or unworthy. You were created to be victorious!” – Joel Osteen

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