“Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

– Steve Jobs

There’s a lovely scene towards the end of the 1989 Ron Howard movie, Parenthood. In it, Gil’s (Steve Martin) grandmother tells a story about the time when she was nineteen and went on a roller coaster. She loved it and wanted to go again and again. But some people didn’t like it, she explains. They prefer the merry-go-round. But that just goes round and around, boringly, without a thrill. She says that she liked the roller coaster more because she got more out of it.

No wiser words were said…

Why would someone choose a merry-go-round ride instead of the roller coaster? Unknown adventure, scared, unsafe choice maybe even peer influence?

If you did settle for the easy, safe ride would you always wonder… what did I miss?

“There is never an easy route to things that matter.”

– Charles de Lint

Making easy, comfortable choices you may never experience the exhilarating thrill that stepping out of your comfort zone gives you.

The self fulfillment of “I did it”

  • That’s where physical and emotional strength comes from.
  • That’s what helps you embrace new experiences in the future.

Don’t Settle

Don’t settle for less just because it’s available.

There are so many choices to make in life.

Top of the list could be … career, relationships, marriage, family.

If you don’t know what I am talking about, here is a little nudge …


1. Find Your Passion

“Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. And don’t settle for less.”

– Tony Gaskins

The sooner you find your passion in life, whether it’s your career or a hobby, the better. When that lightning bolt hits don’t ignore it.

It’s a gift from above waiting to be opened.

“Consider yourself lucky if that seed sprouted at an early age.”

– Jennifer Lawrence

“I always knew that I was going to be famous. I honest to goodness don’t know how else to describe it. I used to lie in bed and wonder, Am I going to be a local TV person? Am I going to be a motivational speaker? It wasn’t a vision. But as it’s kind of happening, you have this buried understanding.”

– Taylor Swift

Taylor shared that her childhood insecurities led her to pursue and believe in her music: “I always used to think to myself, ‘If I could just write songs, if I could just get a record deal, if I could just put out an album, then I swear I would be happy and I wouldn’t need anything else.”

If you are not lucky enough to know at a young age, take the time to explore. It’s never too late. Leave no stone unturned who knows what you will find.

I didn’t know I enjoyed writing until my world fell apart. Then I had something to write about.


2. Be your best self

“Never settle for anything less than your best.”

–  Brian Tracy

Did you ever get a comment like this on your report card, ‘Stevie can try harder; he is capable of better work.’

I wonder if this was a foreshadow of Stevie’s life? This is the merry-go-round mentality.  Don’t stretch or reach beyond the status quo. Just get by.

Some people are happy with just getting by. If you are happy with that you are not settling. Its ok.

If you don’t challenge yourself though, you will never know what you are capable of achieving.

I have heard so many stories of people facing and overcoming unbelievable challenges and surviving.  The amazing part was they were grateful for the experience. They became better for it.

“Don’t miss out on something amazing just because it would be difficult”


3. Relationships

“Someday somebody is going to look at you with a light you’ve never seen. They’ll look at you like you’re everything they’ve been looking for their entire lives.”

– Unknown

Someone told me a long time ago, if a man looks at other women, he doesn’t love you.

Remember that.

If you commit your entire life, and you only get one life, take the time to find your soul mate. A partner that puts you above all else in his/her life to make you happy.  Then reciprocate the same in return.

Also, surround yourself with good friends that align with your energy and principles. There is nothing worse than spending valuable time with someone that continually leaves you feeling depleted when they leave.

Your senses cry out “please make it stop”.

If you have good friends, no matter how much life is sucking, they can make you laugh and sometimes cry. But you feel better.


“One day you will wake up and be so glad you did not settle. You will be so glad you did not give up. You will be so glad you did not sync yourself to someone else’s pace and you chose instead to anchor yourself in the steady rhythm of grace.”

– Morgan Harper Nichols

Bottom line, you get one precious life.

“Don’t die with your music still in you.”

– Wayne Dyer

 You my dear, were never meant to settle.

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