Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.

“The refiner’s fire is real, and qualities of character and righteousness that are forged in the furnace of affliction perfect and purify us and prepare us to meet God.”

– Elder Quentin L. Cook

If only life was easy?

In a perfect world wouldn’t it be wonderful if everything was easy?

What human wants to stretch the limits of their abilities to get what they want and need in life?

The Cave man would not have to run after prey to sustain food to live.

All our needs would magically appear when needed, maybe like programming it into a vending machine.

If everything was easy life’s accomplishments would not be so enjoyable, so appreciated, so invigorating and inspiring.

The other side of that is that making mistakes is a hard pill to swallow. Our egos have a bar set for us to reach our perceived abilities and when that does not happen we can sink into despair and feel like a failure.

That is not an enjoyable or healthy way to live.

What is Failure?

Failure is defined as a lack of success or the inability to meet an expectation.

The problem is that we can read too much into failure. Too often, we tie it to our sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-acceptance.

“All the adversity I have had in my life, all the troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me..you may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth might be the best thing in the world to for you.”

– Walt Disney

Most of the Great’s failed many times to reach their goals.

  • John Grisham’s first book, “A Time to Kill”, was rejected twenty-eight times.
  • Albert Einstein had the label “mentally slow” put on his permanent school record. Einstein didn’t speak at all for the first three years of his life.

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

– Albert Einstein
  • Henry Ford’s first two automobile companies failed.
  • Oprah Winfrey was fired from an early job as a television news anchor.  Overcoming economic hardship and sexual abuse as a child, she was able to create a global media empire.
  • Thomas Edison was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” he responded …

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

– Thomas Edison

There are three types of failure.

Preventable Failures

You fail because you don’t take responsibility for what happens in your life. Also known as having-an-excuse-for-everything disorder.

Getting back up and trying again is the key. Coming back from failure teaches resilience, and resilience is the one quality all successful people have in common.

Intelligent Failures

You need to understand your core strengths. You don’t waste precious time trying to fix your weaknesses.

You could waste a lifetime chasing a dream that is not reality based.

Unavoidable Failures

People experience all kinds of adversity in life. There are personal experiences, such as illness, loss of a loved one, abuse, bullying, job loss, and financial instability. There is the shared reality of tragic events in the news, such as terrorist attacks, mass shootings, and natural disasters.

Don’t take it personally, its not your fault.

What do I do if I fail?

  1. Accept how you feel.
  2. You had a setback.
  3. Learn from this situation.
  4. If you quit trying then you fail.
  5. Don’t feel shame.
  6. Be inspired by others that overcame their mistakes.

“If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.” 

– James Cameron

It feels good to win. Our brains release endorphins, dopamine and serotonin, which encourage us to try again.

When we experience a failure, our brains release cortisol the unhappy hormone. Feeling the pain of failure hopefully leads to more effort to correct your mistake.

‘When things go wrong, don’t go with them.” 

– Elvis Presley

Do some people want you to fail?

If you’ve ever wondered why someone wants you to fail, the reason is that people don’t want you to succeed because they’re afraid. They are afraid of you and what you can accomplish. It is called jealousy; they think it makes them look inadequate.

“Someone else’s success doesn’t equal out to your failure. Likewise, someone else’s failure doesn’t equal your success.”

– Dave Shrein

People also want you to fail, because then there’s no risk that things will change. Don’t let limited thinkers sabotage your efforts.

Signs Someone Doesn’t Want You To Succeed

  • Criticize your accomplishments.
  • Jealous.
  • Make it about them.
  • Talking behind your back.
  • Looking for negatives.
  • Try to discourage you.

Do friends want to see you fail?

When you have failed it is easier for your friend to look like a supportive hero in comparison to when you succeed, and others are focused on you.

Another reason your friend or partner might appear to enjoy your failures is because change is hard. When you have a success, this likely means a change could be coming.

“What would life be like if we had no courage to attempt anything?”

– Vincent Van Gogh

Failure gives us the opportunity to bounce back, to learn from our mistakes, and helps us appreciate success.

Failure can be frightening, however, as Winston Churchill reminded us, “success is all about going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”

Let’s face it being the Come Back Kid will feel sooooo good.

 

“Every time you quit someone else gets your prize.”

– Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson
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