“The two most important days of your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why.”  – Mark Twain

Hopefully by now, after reading my previous blogs, you’re excited about what lies ahead for the new you and your new life. Only if you’re willing to do the work.

What you should know and understand at this point:

  • You desire a better life.
  • You have a purpose.
  • You deserve to live a happy life.
  • You understand fully what changes that need to be made.
  • You realize change won’t be easy, but worth it.
  • You have written down goals/made a vision board.
  • You have done visualization exercises of the new you.
  • You realize you have the power to change things.
  • You recognize any addictions that might hold you back.
  • You understand the power behind being mentally and physically strong.
  • You have found your passion.
  • You know not to look back and place blame or have guilt with your past life.

It’s all in your power to change. If you can’t understand these points yet, go back and reread my previous blogs.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney.

So, what’s left? What else could possibly be in your way to succeed?

Whether we like it or not – life happens. If somehow, we could stop time and complete our journey with nothing getting in the way, that would be wonderful.  

No matter how carefully a project is planned, something may still go wrong with it. The saying is adapted from a line in “To a Mouse,” by Robert Burns: “The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men.’

Plan for the Unknown.

At this point we have discussed what we know. It’s the unknown you have to plan for. Until you are strong enough to divert on-coming challenges, alternate plans need to be put in place.

For a successful take off, look at the runway ahead of you. One day, one week, 6 months ahead. What are the anticipated events, challenges and possible people you need to deal with that can throw you off your intended plans?

Countdown To Takeoff 

Firstly, you need a solid runway with no cracks. This starts with being fully educated with the plan you have chosen. There can be no self doubt, we have addressed this issue before. 

If you don’t have confidence in your convictions, some ‘fast talking know it all’ will twist your plans like a pretzel. Under pressure anything can go wrong. Fear of judgement could be your downfall. They call it peer pressure.

“Never give up on what you really want to do.  The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts.” – Albert Einstein.

 

Secondly you don’t want your runway littered with negative people. Choose wisely who you share your journey with. Even close friends and family might not understand what you are doing, or even understand your ability to do it. 

In my experience, some of my own family have been pandering as I share my aspirations with them. They lovingly express “that’s nice Mom, your journals will be well received when you are gone.”

“Avoid negative people at all costs.  They are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self esteem.” – Brian Tracy

We can’t avoid family and friends but we can avoid what information we share. You need to sit on your goals like the “Golden Egg” until you are ready to support your words with your actions. By then you are safe to let the truth be seen.

Thirdly, give yourself time. Make sure your runway is long enough. If it isn’t, your take off will land in the ditch.

It would be great to have instant gratification for your efforts. Give it time. Each day you move in a positive direction is a day closer to your goal.  

Let your new lifestyle be a permanent fixture in your life not a temporary fix.

Fourthly, Baggage – past failures, negative support, it’s not my fault, I can’t do it, I’m not smart enough, I’m not talented enough, I’m not worthy.  Yes, we have talked about our past not dictating our future, but all that baggage still litters your runway. It’s in your subconscious doing its job.

You need to be prepared when those feelings pop up out of your vault to kick them aside with an inspiring word, phrase or even song. My knock out word is Freedom. I remember what that means to me. In time the new successes will overshadow past experiences.

Finally, are you afraid to fly?  Get rid of that thought even before you hit the runway. What’s to be afraid of?

Change Can Be Liberating

Even though you are excited to have a new life, you don’t know it yet. We can visualize the external features, and possibly guess how we might feel, but it’s still the unknown. As humans we find comfort in knowing not anticipating.

Note: Metathesiophobia, is a phobia that causes people to avoid changing their circumstances due to being extremely afraid of the unknown.

Change can be liberating, but you sometimes need a ‘kick ass’ attitude. That is what I had to do.

I had to find my inner ‘b#tch’ to rise above my crumbling life. To change direction, you need to change your attitude.  It’s truly a mental shift and I remember it well.

It’s a bit of “I’ll show you,” to the neigh sayers that kicked you to the curb and left you for dead. You know who they are and you know you’re not dead. You can feel the pain of a life not lived every day. Rise above the ashes and show them what you are made of.

I’ll ask again, are you afraid to fly? Make the answer is Hell No!

Your runway is clear for takeoff.  Have an amazing flight.

The bad news is, time flies.  

The good news, you are the pilot. 

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